How was your weekend? Ours, despite warm weather Saturday and a big snowfall Sunday, was spent mainly indoors! Funny enough, I went out more on the snowy day than the bright, nice day! I guess every winter this California girl has to prove that she can hack it – just to herself – because I love knowing I can get out and not only live in but enjoy this weather! I pumped myself up all day, living around the house in my leggings and sports bra, ready for whenever the time struck, to go…and finally, out the door I went.
And you know what? It turned out to be an awesome run! I listened to two episodes of The Fit Cast (definitely recommend this fitness and nutrition podcast!) – Leigh Peele returns part I and part II. You MUST listen to part I from minutes 34:50 – 50:32 concerning “falling off the wagon” and maintaining. It’s SO GOOD and this is exactly how I feel about fitness and nutrition and my role as a trainer and what I want for myself and my clients.
Leigh talks about the all or nothing mentality – which we’re all familiar with – and how people driving by that “all clean foods/all junk,” “all-out training/never trains just for ‘life’ ” tend to be the people who fall off the wagon the worst because they often have a very restrictive nature about themselves. And for many of us who try a program and then revert to our old ways, can’t maintain the change or can’t stick to our goals, it’s maybe as simple as us not being true to our authentic selves. In other words, we’re trying to eat like a fitness competitor or train all-out in a caloric deficit, and maybe we’re trying to be someone we’re not, holding ourselves up to a standard that doesn’t jive with our lifestyles or, ultimately, really matter.
“It’s just changing your attitude about it. I find that the people that are most long-term successful have discovered and said to themselves, ‘Look, this crazy restriction, eating things I don’t like to eat, training myself as if I’m part of some crazy Biggest Loser transformation and doing it as fast as I can, it doesn’t work. Let it go. Let it go…and accept the fact that for you, a moderate-paced, moderate approach, just kind of lackadaisical attitude towards fat loss and body composition is probably going to get you there so much faster than your continual need to create this magical transformation in your mind. Let it go. Just give it up.”
It inspired me to continue my journey of letting go and living life, of allowing food and fitness and mindset and body composition and all the rest to take a back seat to going with the flow. I suppose this doesn’t work for everyone, but without my scale in the house and with a focus on strength in the gym, I’ve been feeling good! And that’s the direction I want to keep moving in.
So, my question for you is this: are you training, eating, living in a way that works with your lifestyle? Maybe training that hard is sky-rocketing your appetite and you’re always hungry and find yourself overeating. Maybe you want to prep your chicken and broccoli but your weekends are full of binge eating or drinking when out with friends because you’re missing the foods you enjoy so much, or you just can’t commit that much time to the prep. I’m not saying anything against people who work well with prep and stay on point training hard (check out @mshelllll to be super inspired by someone who lives this way!), but maybe you’re comparing yourself to people who are wired differently than you are. I love the concept of #IIFYM (if it fits your macros), but I just know I’m not someone who can weigh and measure my food, even if it means I can eat pop tarts and have some wine and enjoy donuts on the regular. Truth be told, I want to eat that way if I want to while enjoying nutritious foods too and train because I love movement, appreciate muscles, and want to be strong and fit without needing to think about it all constantly.
That’s why I head out for 10 miles on a snowy Sunday – just because I can. That’s why I work on my pull ups and eat mainly healthy and stay active in the gym – because it contributes to my lifestyle, it’s sustainable for me, and it allows me to have fun with friends, enjoy a glass of wine, eat candy at a movie, but also make choices NOT to go overboard for reasons we justify with “just because…”
This weekend I also received a great newsletter email via Jill Coleman that was also about authenticity, although in a slightly different vein. One of the things she said that resonated with me was: “If you love what you’re doing, that love outweighs all potential hate you’ll encounter.” And although she meant it with a different purpose, I think it applies in a similar fashion to following a fitness or nutrition – if you don’t love it, you’ll likely not stick with it.
I love this concept of being authentic not only to yourself as a person (that’s how I normally think of the word – like with your character), but also to yourself in terms of what will work with your lifestyle and with who you are. So is there anything that needs to change in your life right now so you can stick with your journey to your goals?
Just some thoughts for your Monday morning…I’d love to dialogue about it and hear your take on the issue! Have a great day – weather you’re in snowy Calgary or sunny California (hi, mom!). Live well & be well,