…oh there you are,
Yesterday I posted an Instagram photo that got me thinking about my journey in health, fitness, body image and life as a woman.
I wrote: “A few things that I did NOT love 1 – 2 years ago: painted nails, PINK (shoes in this case), gold jewelry (only sometimes but for sure with my feather ring), thighs that touch and tan skin. Okay… So the California girl in me has ALWAYS loved being tan, but the rest of the list are things I’ve been working on embracing. And you know what? Strong legs rock, colorful nails arefun and pink is awesome, especially when I’m jumping and sprinting and burpee-ING around!
It made me think more about the concept of growth in focus and mindset, and begs the question from me to you, What are things you’ve been working on embracing and loving now about your body and self?
Some things click when we want to change an aspect about ourselves and BOOM! We’re moving on to the next thing. But more often than not, growth and change takes time, and even more than time, it takes practice. That’s why I love this phrase:
Isn’t that the truth? But there’s some onus on us to actually put into practice the changes we desire to see. If you want to become a better listener, you CAN! But it takes work to be still with others, to focus on what they’re saying and not plan out your next thought, and it takes patience. If you want to do a pull up, you CAN! But you need to work on the right muscles and challenge yourself in the gym and not forget about that goal. If you want to become a better spouse, you CAN! But that requires putting someone else first and saying “no” to selfishness.
Besides wearing nail polish now, there are a few ways that I’ve seen change over the past few years in myself, and all are in the “ing” form as they are on-going processes! 😉
- Embracing what makes me, me! I’m quirky, kinda corny, cheerful and a people person. All those things come with their weaknesses too, even though they sound so positive, but I’m learning how to embrace the unique things about me that contribute to who I am and love them, growing the strengths and focusing on those!
- Becoming more confident in my marriage. Not that I’ve ever doubted Mikey’s love, or he’s given me any reason to doubt, but when we first moved to Calgary my insecurities surfaced being in his hometown with his friends and his past. Those things aren’t a big deal anymore and I truly feel set in our love and marriage – but again, this is an area to keep growing in; to keep working on and to keep putting as a focus in our lives. I love that! Maturity as a woman and as a wife sure helps, along with a man who grows more and more in his role as a husband to me daily. 🙂
- Loving and accepting my body while actively working towards better health. I never want to give excuses for not eating well or working out and want that to be a constant in my life, but while I’m moving down that path I’ve become better at learning to love my body. My self-talk and body image is much better than it was a few years ago (or even last year!) despite not being as a lean as I was then, and that’s a victory to me! There’s many elements to the WHY of this one (I think throwing out my scale and knowing my identity in Christ, not in my abs, has a big part to do with it), but my mindset has been improving and I will keep working on this!
- Growing in my relationship with Christ. This, like all of the above, is an on-going process – that’s what sanctification is! But this is an area of my life where it’s easy to get stalled out, and I’ve been convicted and even just alerted to the fact that I’ve been ankle- and knee-deep in my relationship with God for a while now. As Heidi Baker says in Birthing the Miraculous, great things can happen there! But I want MORE of God; I want to wade into his ocean and let his tide sweep me away; I want to learn to breathe under his waters and be over my head so that HE can work, not so that I’m still breathing and in control and in charge of what happens. She writes,
“I believe the Lord is calling us to a lifestyle of laid-down love that goes well beyond waist-deep in the river. It is a per meant lifestyle of ‘lower still.’ It is a call to dive into a love that is limitless, ceaseless, and bottomless – a call to relinquish control.”
I want to know what it’s like to experience the Holy Spirit working in my life in deep and powerful ways and not be satisfied with the status quo of being a Christian in North America right now. I have to thank my sister-in-law for this great book and it’s timing in my life as I desire to go deeper, to be in over my head and to live in a fresher way this lifestyle of laid-down-love. But again, it’s a process.
All these things take practice, and if I don’t put the time in, they won’t come to fruition simply by having the right intentions, however strong and good they may be. But it’s so neat to reflect and see areas where I’ve grown and changed and use that as momentum to move forward!
So I want to know… In life, in fitness, spiritually, as a man or woman, in your relationships or your body image, how can you see growth? Let’s recognize it, celebrate it and keep pressing on with one another today! Live well & be well friends,