Lately I’ve been finding myself surrounded by confident, successful people. From the fitness industry and other trainers at CityFit to fitness professionals online to fellow entrepreneurs in Calgary who are working hard despite the recession here to deliver quality products and services, I am surrounded by those who are striving and succeeding.
I often wonder myself if I’m truly a driven person. I want to be busy, to service my clients well and to feel like I gave everything at the end of a work day, but I don’t have a real driving focus or vision for 5 or 10 years down the road when it comes to my work and career. This can be a bit embarrassing for me to admit when my circles contain people who are driving and pushing forward with such focus and determination!
But the truth is, I’m okay being kind of mediocre in my life. Don’t get me wrong – I want to be all I can be and not be living under my full potential, but I also like having balance and being mindful of the different dimensions of my life. Part of it is my personality – I’m quite honestly okay to do my job, come home at the end of the day, and NOT pursue something else (like school, classes, or learning new hobbies). My husband, on the other hand, who just started his PhD (congrats, Mikey!), is a man driven to learn more and keep absorbing information and experiences, and I love that about him!
So how do I strike a balance between simply being me (and being okay with not being the #HUSTLE type of woman) and also wanting to make the most of my time and not waste my extra hours or days? Well, I’m trying this idea:
JUST SHOW UP.
Now, I haven’t always been a proponent of this idea, partly because that can mean just doing the bare minimum and sometimes being met with lacklustre results due to poor planning and just showing up. However, I think it’s beneficial for someone like me, who is far from a Type-A personality, to just say, “I’m going for it!” and get my planning done, just clean the house, just get that workout going, and simply just.show.up.
So here’s how I’m planning on just showing up this week:
- When I know something needs to be done, I’m just going to do it. Examples: if it only takes a minute to do 2 dishes, do it then. When I notice the toilet and think to clean it, do it then and not wait until it’s more of a chore. When I catch myself thinking about mowing the lawn, pick a time THAT DAY to do it (today it’s at 7 pm!).
- Don’t overthink my workouts. This is not normally an issue for me, but I’ve been struggling in the motivation department this last week and have been lax at getting movement DONE. So instead of over-thinking or planning my workouts, I’m just going to change into my workout clothes and start moving. (Here’s what I did today and just got it done! Felt great even though I put it off until the afternoon…)
- For personal growth, keep it simple. Rather than keeping my Bible nearby when I wake up in the morning – next to my phone and coffee and workout plans for clients – I’m going to ONLY take my Bible (well, and my coffee!) for morning reading. If I don’t have my phone and other options or distractions around me, chances are I’m going to do a lot better at actually only reading my Bible or journalling when that’s my goal. Keep it simple and clutter-free so my mind also can be!
- Keep the sleep up! I’ve been doing great catching more z’s and want to be someone who always prioritize rest and sleep, which means being firm on how I spend my evenings and continuing to shut ‘er down sooner than not!
I also liked this little list that someone shared on Facebook about just showing up and just doing it! …maybe you connect with some of these thoughts?
Sixteen Small Steps to Happiness
1. Push yourself to get up before the rest of the world – start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. Go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.
2. Push yourself to fall asleep earlier – start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. Wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.
3. Erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. Use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.
4. Get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. Fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.
5. Stretch. Start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. Roll your head. Stretch your fingers. stretch everything.
6. Buy a 1L water bottle. Start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.
7. Buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. Write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. No detail is too small.
8. Strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. Put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. Make your bed in full.
9. Organize your room. Fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. Light a beautiful candle.
10. Have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. Lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
11. Push yourself to go for a walk. Take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. Bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. Realize you can learn from your dog.
12. Message old friends with personal jokes. Reminisce. Suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. Push yourself to follow through.
14. Think long and hard about what interests you. Crime? Boarding school? Long-forgotten romance etiquette? Find a book about it and read it. There is a book about literally everything.
15. Become the person you would ideally fall in love with. Let cars merge into your lane when driving. Pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. Stick your tongue out at babies. Compliment people on their cute clothes. Challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. Then two. Then a week. Walk with a straight posture. Look people in the eye. Ask people about their story. Talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
16. Lie in the sunshine. Daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. Open your eyes. Take small steps to make it happen for you. (source: www.EmmaElsworthy.com)
Some of these make me roll my eyes a bit, but I think that idea of just pushing yourself to go for it is really great advice. If you want to be that early bird, just DO IT! Get up early and get after it. If you want to be a stronger Christian and someone who identifies with Christ, what’s holding you back from spending time with Jesus and making him your priority (I’m saying this one to myself!)? If you want to see change in your body, stop making excuses and start making it part of your day to go to the gym after work, no exceptions.
Sometimes we all need a little tough love and that kick to just show up and see what happens!
Is there an area you need to just show up regularly in?
What do you think of that idea of “just showing up?”
I’d love to hear your tips to get stuff done!
Live well & be well,